I Have a Dream… I Believe
The MisplacedBrit Manifesto:
I have a dream…
That children will be brought up in families and in community. That parents will not be alone in investing in and loving on their children. That supporting and caring about each other and each others children would be as obvious as loving and looking out for ourselves and our own.
That every* parent wants to be the best parent they can be.
That every* parent wants the best of all that they know, for their child.
Not long ago Simon Sinek did a Ted Talk: How Great Leaders Inspire Action. It’s been watched more than 23 million times. His focus is a golden circle and at the centre of that is the question WHY. Why do we do what we do? What is it that drives us? What is the focus, the vision, the dream?
Once we’ve understood that, then HOW? The next circle. How are we going to get there? How can we achieve it?
Lastly, around the edge of the circle is the WHAT? What are our results? If it’s a product or a service that we’re selling then what does it look like?
So often we start with the what. This… Is WHAT I do. This… Is WHAT I want to achieve. ’Goals’ such as earning money, fame and fortune fall into the WHAT category. This… Is WHAT I want. Eventually being driven by a WHAT is equally as uninspiring for ourselves as it is for anyone else. The question would be WHY do I want to achieve that?
WHAT am I doing?
Do I even have a WHY?
Martin Luther King had a ’I have a dream…’
Well, now MisplacedBrit has one too.
What’s your dream? WHY do you do what you do? What drives you?
*I wrote ’every’. Of course these statements are not true for EVERY SINGLE parent. Of course there are exceptions. Of course there are people and relationships that are horribly the opposite. The point I want to make is that we get to shape our presumptions, our starting point, our preconceived ideas. We get to decide if we’re going to be the person who walks around gavel in hand making judgements about everyone we see based on their appearance, what we just heard them say, what we think of their behaviour, attitude, parenting techniques or lack of. We get to decide if what we see them do, eat or say is how we’re going to define them.
I believe that there is love, graciousness and generosity in not doing that. We don’t ’need’ to judge. We don’t ’need’ to walk around boxing people into clichés, conveniently brushing them aside or labeling them. We get to decide.
Simon Sinek, How Great Leaders Inspire Action: